A Little Digestion Please
During the lunch hour, Sabine laid out the reality of things, as she wanted to make sure that Connor was of the same understanding as everyone else. Turns out, on most points, he was. Yet, fear. Fear got in his way and twisted his thinking for the worse.
Out of fear, Connor had concluded that the rejections were personal and directed towards him to hurt him. Seeing his eyes light up in awe to realize that he was asking at the wrong times was priceless. As Sabine relayed how hard it was to watch a great man ignore messages from Betsy, his face switched all kinds of pink. His own fears had played with his mind and twisted the truth around.
The defense mechanism of the past hurts were no longer needed today; they were twisting him about the wrong way and just left him in a confused fray.
As the conversation moved along, Connor admitted that he enjoyed Sabine’s friendship but had kept his distance as he had no idea where the line between work friendships and social friendships existed. To compound matters, where in that transition could one accidentally cross a relationship line. This made Sabine laugh. The poor man really didn’t understand how relationships worked.
It was not that he couldn’t feel. Connor just didn’t know what his feelings meant and how they connected in the real world. That also explained why every time the friendship between Sabine and himself got really close, the man would find work to attend to and let things cool off. It was nothing personal. It was just his way of surviving life when pain had no explanations.
The only remaining piece of the puzzle was complicated. How in the world did Connor manage to appear so gallant when his internals were always second guessing itself? Nothing discussed offered much insight for Sabine. Maybe, that was just that area of his heart that only Betsy would have access to. That was just fine by Sabine. That depth of understanding was not for her to have nor want anyway.
“Before we head back, silly question. How do I transition my connection with Betsy into a relationship?”
That near timid raw transparent revelatory question caught Sabine completely off-guard causing her to nearly choke on her coffee. The depth of this man’s caution was way out of her league. She felt sorry for him but also glad that he was trusting her with his inner thoughts and worries. Sabine knew she could be the best friend he needed and paused to think of a good answer.
“The very same way you spoke to her on the dance floor for the first time. That’s how you’ll transition your connection into a relationship”
Sabine tried not to laugh. That phrasing was such a mouthful and so not how regular folks spoke. But that was Connor for you. Always polite to a flaw. Always sensitive about another’s feeling. Always cautious not to commit his own feelings publicly.
<the Epilogue is next>
Editorial Note: Adding a list of the chapters via a more modern approach. Just click on the image or title to read more of the chapters you’ve yet to read. Updated September 2018. After the list of chapters will eventually be a link to the portfolio table of contents. That particular page will eventually hold any new updates and chapters to this story… should there be more.
Just Ask Already! Prelude - There are office party traditions that make sense and others that just don't.
Navigating about the holiday spirit and cheer is one thing, complicating it with the feelings of love is quite another.
Will our story hero find love or just be the laughing stock of the holidays?
Just Ask Already! His Side - A person can spend a lot of time thinking about what could have, should have, would have, might have...
Connor knew only one thing, his heart ached to be with Betsy. Yet, far as he could tell, she wanted nothing to do with him.
Could he be right? Could he be overthinking things? Could he be missing some facts?
Holidays are the worst times to be so lovelorn and alone... if only some clarity could be found...
Just Ask Already! Her Side - Why must men make things so difficult.
All they have to do is just ask... and accept whatever answer they get.
NO.. Men just love making things difficult. A woman can only do so much to drop a hint.
Maybe, just maybe, taking the ball into her own court might do the trick.
Men!
Just Ask Already!!!
Just Ask Already! Mr. Braum - When a good best friend could do, sometimes a 'higher' power is needed.
There are people who want you to succeed, but you're not always aware of them.
Those folks can offer that nice swift hard kick in the pants a best friend may not... just to get you moving towards love.
Especially during the crazy times of the holiday season
Just Ask Already! The Party - That moment of truth... the music is just right, the stars are all aligned... the girl is looking into your eyes.... and you look... away?!?!
Seriously though? Now you look away?
NO! Just Ask Her Already!
Some fellas just don't seem to get it. How many more flares need to explode?
He's gonna get the girl, right? 
Just Ask Already! Conclusion? - Sometimes, just sometimes, you get lucky and question your good fortune.
You've got the gal. You've got the relationship. Yet, you're not sure how you got so lucky
This.. this is where a gentle post-got-lucky-debrief is not overkill. That is if you've got the right friends helping you out.
Just don't overthink too much.
Just Ask Already! Epilogue - He finally asked!!!! This is the part where a Hollywood ending would be perfect.
Yet, there are a few loose ends the reader will be left to handle
Things change once the question is asked and the answer is to the affirmative
Now it's time to celebrate
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